When we try to route an internal message ("BYE", "NOT_A_SERVICE_NODE",
etc.) back to the remote from the proxy thread we can end up trying to
send to a disconnected remote, which raises an exception, but this isn't
caught in proxy code: fix this by catching and ignoring it.
This also changes the code to send these messages in "dontwait" mode so
that if we can't queue the message we get (and ignore) an exception
rather than blocking.
lokimq.cpp and lokimq.h were getting monolithic; this splits lokimq.cpp
into multiple smaller cpp files by logical purpose for better parallel
compilation ability. It also splits up the lokimq.h header slightly by
moving the ConnectionID and Message types into their own headers.